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Showing posts with label Christmas. Show all posts

Friday, December 23, 2011

Peace at Christmas

I'm having a tough time with Christmas posts this year. I had a plan -- I loved my plan. But life interrupted. Not the fun life of bows, wrapping, songs, baking, movies, playing. Our Christmas was interrupted by real life. Painful lessons we all must learn but no one really wants to go through. What happened isn't really important to this post. (If you're curious, sorry... That is a story for another day.) What we learned from it is priceless.

1. Christmas is NOT about gifts! We spend so much time shopping, paying, wrapping, stressing... over gifts. I'm learning this year how very misguided that really is. What if you had no family to buy gifts for? What if you were all alone this Christmas?

2. Treasure the gift of family! We take each other for granted. We focus on "my" instead of "our" or "you." Am I really going to have to listen to Uncle George's pontifications again? Or deal with Grandma's snide comments all day long? Whatever... is it really so bad to put up with that for one day? Instead of focusing on the one person who drives you crazy, why not take time to look at the blessing of family. What joy have these people brought into your life? How have they put up with you, despite your flaws and imperfections? Be thankful your family loves you in spite of you!

3. Remember the Prince of Peace! Christmas is the celebration of our Savior's birth, but Jesus didn't come down here as a baby and stay that way. He came and grew into a man, to preach and teach -- in word and action -- of God's love, forgiveness, hope and peace. Christmas is simply where the gift begins. Will you receive his gift -- relationship with him that covers all your sin and leads to eternal life?

This Christmas more than any other, Jesus' peace is the gift I most cherish. My heart has been so heavy, but His peace is filling me and comforting me.

Whatever burdens or hurts you carry this Christmas, I pray you will know that Jesus was born for you. He wants to fill your heart with the same peace He's giving me.

For unto us a child is born, to us a son is given,
and the government will be on his shoulders.
And he will be called
Wonderful Counselor,
Mighty God,
Everlasting Father,
Prince of Peace.
Isaiah 9:6

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Jesus with Skin On

Hey friends,
Ellie, 6, serving at With Love from Jesus
Have you ever heard that phrase, "Being Jesus with skin on?" It's a cute way to say "live out" Jesus' command to love God and love others. That's my challenge to you! These last two weeks before Christmas, won't you show your love for Jesus by loving others the way He would?

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Don't complain about the guy holding up the "will work for food" sign. Instead, carry granola bars in your car glovebox to share. 
  • Adopt a family! Not sure where to begin? Ask your church secretary. No doubt your church has received many calls from desperate families this Christmas. Why not be Jesus (or Secret Santa) to a family? An easy shopping guide: buy each child a new shirt (right size/favorite color) and a special wish item, and buy mom and dad a bag of non-perishable groceries. It costs only $100 to radically bless a family of 6 this way! :)
  • Listen! Many people, especially women, struggle emotionally at Christmas. They know it should be the happiest time of the year, but it's not. Carrying past hurts or dealing with the winter blues, many women struggle to survive the Christmas season. Not you? Offer her a hug and a prayer -- for peace and comfort during this difficult time.
  • Remember! Most of us know someone who lost a dear loved one during the year. Take a moment and write a card letting them know that you haven't forgotten. Pray for them, asking God to fill their heart with memories to cherish and comfort this Christmas. Don't forget their loved one or their pain. They haven't forgotten -- and need to know it's okay to be a little sad.
  • Have a friend who's been out of work for a while? Offer to pay their December electric bill (or gas or water). If you have a job, you're already blessed! Pass it on.
Love others like Jesus loves. Be Jesus with skin on. Isn't that what Christmas is all about?

Merry Christmas!

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Must Read

Hey,
Did you notice? It's Christmas time!!!! I know, I know. It's impossible not to notice.

Christmas ads on TV (Who, by the way, has ever gotten a brand new luxury car complete with big red bow? Tell me... I want to be on that Christmas list!)
Neighborhoods twinkle in the crisp, evening air.
Household clutter disappears, replaced with Christmas clutter.
Caroling? Anyone?
Parties.
Baking.
Shopping.
Wrapping.
Recitals.
Parades.

Whew.

Stop. Just for one minute. Read this: Unwrapping Jesus.

Then go back to your regularly scheduled chaos.
Love,

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Ho-ho-holiday stress!

Paul told the Philippians, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God."

Of course, that was 2,000 years ago, before Christmas really got going. Paul didn't have to juggle his regular responsibilities, plus Christmas shopping, baking, kids' school programs, office parties, church gatherings, tree lightings and parades. He didn't have to figure out how to blend your Christmas and my Christmas to make our Christmas -- hopefully without offending the grannies!

Paul didn't know.

But God did! Ecclesiastes 1:9 says, "What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun."

We think we have stress. What about Mary? Stress one: telling her family she was having God's baby. Yeahhhhh..... sure. Stress two: breaking the news to Joseph. Stress three: very pregnant with cankles, she rode a stinking donkey across the country! I complain when I journey in my environmentally controlled car with adjustable seats, stereo, pillow and cup holder.

When they finally got to Bethlehem, Mary's situation did not improve. No place to stay.... Oooooh, if my husband planned a trip and forgot sleeping arrangements he would be toast! Talk about stress. How about having a baby in a stable, surrounded by stinky pigs, horses and donkeys? We freak out if our baby's pacifier hits the kitchen floor. Can you imagine giving birth in that filthy place?

As usual, God's right. There is nothing new under the sun. We head into the holidays excited, yet dreading. I think Mary might just understand. When the angel first came to her, she was "greatly troubled at his word and wondered what kind of greeting this might be." Can you hear her, hands on hips, saying, "Dude, what are you talking about? That makes no sense!"

The angel replied, "Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus." Mary's response? Pure peace and grace, she answered, "I am the Lord’s servant... May your word to me be fulfilled.” (Quotes from Luke 1:26-38, NIV

No stress I face compares to what Mary endured to give birth to the love of Christmas. No stress you face is greater than hers either.

Rather than freak out as we tend to do, let's adopt an attitude more like Mary's.
  • When the tension and anxiety start to build, stop! Breathe deeply and slowly.
  • As you breathe deeply, pray, "I am your servant, Lord. Let your love fill me and flow through me. Fill me with your peace."
  • Keep praying and breathing until God's peace fills you!
To endure the trip, Mary must have been healthy. Let's make healthy living a priority as well.
  • Drink coffee, soda, tea (caffeine) only in the morning, and only one or two cups. Caffeine throughout the day builds and creates an artificial anxiety which leads to more anxiety -- a vicious cycle!
  • As the day winds down, drink a cup of chamomile or "sleepytime" tea to settle your stomach, your nerves and your mind. Winding down at day's close improves sleep. Better sleep leads to greater ability to make decisions to manage the stress.
My guess is that Mary didn't fill her time on that donkey talking about crime rates and other horrors of the world, instead filling the time talking with Joseph and others in the family. Why do we look at the negative?
  • Turn off the news. (If you, like me are a weather junkie, flip on the news at the quarter hour. You'll still get the report without the sensational headlines!)
  • While you're at it, shut off the crime-filled drama shows and reality TV. These shows are specifically designed to build tension so you stay glued to the channel. The real world is not filled with crime after crime after crime, buildings and warehouses blowing up in cities across the world, or mass murderers in every neighborhood. (Yes, these things do happen, but not like the shows suggest). 
  • Instead, spend time with the family. Decorate cookies, play board games, watch a FUN Christmas movie together, make cards for Grandma. Focus on the blessings God has given you!
Ho-ho-holiday stress does exist. God knows. He really does! Just as He got Mary through the stress of that first Christmas, He WILL see you through it too.

May the love of Jesus fill your heart, your mind and your home this special season.
Love,

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Treasured Time

Last year's tree. No tree yet this year!
Rob and I took a rare opportunity to sneak away yesterday and get some Christmas shopping done. We finished all our shopping for the extended family, including both grandmas' December birthdays.

Rather than hit the local mall, we opted to shop at the local shops in Chapel Hill, NC. What a treat it was to explore shops without having to remind a certain child to keep her hands to herself. Or to pause and feed two teen boys every fifteen minutes. We got to take our time! And think, without distraction!

When we got hungry, we stopped for a bite to eat.

On the way home, we decided to make a detour -- this time to the mall to find the elusive last gift. If we'd had the kids with us, we wouldn't have done that either... something about bedtimes and school day mornings.

I'm thankful today for the sweet break with Rob. I'm thankful for two responsible sons who got dinner on the table for the kids, read books with Ellie before bed, made sure she brushed her teeth and tucked her in. Treasured time away with Rob, even for an afternoon of shopping, might be the best gift anyone could ever give me!

Love,

Monday, December 27, 2010

Christmas Memories

Christmas 2010 may be our best Christmas ever!

Ellie and I both wore dresses Christmas Eve to church. Her request.

Ellie thinks the ornament on the tree makes it look like she's wearing a crown!
She sure is God's little princess!
Ellie got to see Santa -- which she really wanted to do all season but we never thought would happen! She wrote notes to Santa and Rudolph and put them in her stocking. He wrote back!

Ellie and Santa.
"Oh shoot. I forgot to ask if I made the kind of nice list."
She is sooo funny! Came up with that one all by herself.
Ellie's note from Santa. He knows the real reason for the season!
Santa even brought presents for Grandma and Grandpa. He's so kind!
The kids were so thoughtful with their gift giving to one another.

Ben and Nathan
These are supposed to be their thoughtful, pondering faces. Nice try, Ben.
Penguin paper for Ben. He loves penguins!
The Christmas book. A family tradition.
Nathan appreciates it now that he's "old." Ellie and Ben, not yet.
Nathan and Ellie always share a big smile!
He prayed her into our family and adores her to this day!

Our first Christmas with darling Daisy.

Daisy got a new bed and she loves it!

Hard to tell here, but the snow was as deep as she is tall!
She loved the snow!
My parents joined us for the first time ever, venturing here despite predictions of wacky winter weather.

Grandma Lori and Ellie
Grandpa Bob, Ben and Grandpa's new tie for his cruise vacation!
Ties by Ben. Grandpa is stylin'!
Grandpa and Grandma give Christmas with the grandkids two thumbs up!
The snow arrived, just before midnight Christmas night, giving our part of North Carolina our first "official" white Christmas since 1947! Really, though, the snow could have arrived just a few hours earlier... not that I'm picky or anything.

Ben and friends gave the red car a mohawk in honor of Uncle Jim.
He was stuck at home in the icy mountains of SC taking care of the dogs.
We love you, Uncle Jim, even if you give my kids weapons (see below).
Caleb, Nathan, Ben, Caroline and Ellie
The Fry/Dawkins snow day traditions continue.
Fun times!
Ellie and Daddy made a snowman.
Not easy in this snow -- a little soft -- but Daddy was determined!
The finished product, decorated with colored golf balls
-- and a plumbline powder "skirt."
Bonus time with the grandparents. They tried heading home ahead of the storm, but the black ice changed their plans. Instead, we had an extra day together. Grandma and Rob beat Grandpa and Karen at pinochle. They got lucky -- especially since Grandma couldn't remember what trump was called! We demand a do-over! Right, Grandpa?

My parents' SC car has never seen snow like this before!
It seems to like it though. :)
And the best wrapped gift of all time -- well, except the newborn King, wrapped in swaddling clothes and laid in a manger!!! (From Uncle Jim. The paper he chose said, "Let there be peace on earth." My brother has quite the sense of humor!)

Ben wouldn't really shoot his brother, would he?
May your new year be blessed with the love, joy, peace and grace of our Savior.

Love,
Karen

Friday, December 24, 2010

Merry Christmas!!!

From our family to yours,
We wish you a Merry Christmas!

May you be blessed with
love (John 3:16)
joy (Psalm 16:11)
peace  (John 14:27)
and
hope (1 Peter 1:3)

With love,
Rob, Karen, Nathan, Ben and Ellie
Daisy and Buckeye too

Friday, December 10, 2010

Two Weeks Before Christmas

Twas two weeks before Christmas,
and all through the house,
not a creature was stirring,
dog quiet as a mouse!

The stockings were hung 
by the chimney with care,
The tree and the trimmings
were placed here and there.

The shopping was done,
the gifts done up in bows.
How we got done so early,
no one really knows.

For two weeks as we wait,
We'll bake cookies and bread.
We'll play games together,
Thankful we're ahead!

May not happen again,
of that I'm aware.
So please don't you greet me,
with grimace or glare!

Our family wishes you,
your family and friends,
A blessed Christmas season.
May your tasks quickly end!

**My apologies to Clement Clarke Moore, author of Twas the Night Before Christmas.**

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Balanced!

Hi my bloggy friends,
Ready for a new type of post? I realize that for the past three days, I have looked at Christmas giving from just about every angle. Give meaningful gifts that make a difference. Give your time. Give your heart.

All that giving can turn our stomachs to knots.

A friend of mine decided not to decorate a tree this year. I, personally, was offended. I hassled her... then, another friend spoke up, suggesting that not having a tree might be a great idea. I humbly stand corrected.

Not to the tree part, necessarily (big grin), but to the essence of her point. Doing something -- particularly tradition-laden things -- can trap you in a place you just shouldn't be. Baking cookies to share with a dozen neighbors, purchasing small gifts for all the co-workers just because it's expected, sending Christmas cards (really, all those stamps are expensive and in this economy...), decorating the house and yard and even the car. Whew! I'm tired. My checkbook depleted.

Throw in generosity, giving to the poor, serving the homeless, or whatever, and you could almost literally explode. S T R E S S! What's a wonderful, generous, kind-hearted, well-intentioned person to do?

S T O P!

P R A Y!

T R U S T!

Stop trying to do it all. You'll be so tired you won't enjoy your family, your time together or the love of Jesus.

Pray and leave the choice to God. Lord, show me what is best for my family. Lead us to make choices this Christmas that glorify you. We give You our time, our hearts, our finances. Help us make decisions that honor You.

Trust His guidance. You aren't led to decorate the tree this year? Then don't let guilt or tradition (or a well-intentioned nagging friend) make you do it. Christmas isn't about the tree and trimmings anyway. It's about Jesus. So many "friends" on your Christmas list that you feel crushed? Trust God to reveal to you who to purchase (or bake cookies or send cards) for. If you don't find that perfect gift, maybe you aren't really supposed to buy one. Every time you pass the Salvation Army bucket, do you feel compelled to drop in a few dollars (this one always trips me up)? Trust that God will show you where and how to be generous this year. It's not that you shouldn't be generous. After all, Christmas is the season of love and generosity.  Just trust God's plan for your generosity. You don't have to do it all!

You don't have to do it all!


Trust God. Bless others the way He leads. Say NO when it's not the best thing for your family. Enjoy this season of miracles.

Merry Christmas!

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Making a Difference this Christmas

Friends,

Check out this blog. One family. Giving a week of vacation. To love kids who have no family.
http://throwingourarmsopenwide.blogspot.com/2010/12/this-is-why.html

Or this story? One couple. Making a difference.
http://lutherandheather.blogspot.com/2010/10/swaziland-journey.html?spref=fb

How about you? Would you go down the street? Across town? Next door? to share God's love with someone this Christmas?

I'm not suggesting you take a week off to serve. Just open your heart to share. How?
  • Jump a car that won't start. (Right, Barb?)
  • Make dinner for a shut-in.
  • Make Christmas cards with the kids for those who have no family coming in this Christmas.
  • Invite someone to dinner.
  • Smile at the bell-ringer. Whether you donate or not, thank that person for volunteering their time for the less fortunate.
  • Buy a pack of paper -- or other school supplies -- and donate them to your local school.
  • Say a prayer for those with no place to call home.
That's a short list. I know you all are way more creative than I am! What is your family doing to share God's love with others this Christmas season?

If shopping's your thing, that can be quite meaningful too! Check out these awesome gift options -- note the addition in the comment section! :)

Merry Christmas!

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

More Blessed to Give than to Receive

Have you heard the story of the "widow's mite?" It's one of my favorite Bible stories of all time. This lady, so poor and with no husband to support her, gave Jesus everything she had. Everything!

Even in our poor economic situation, most of us will spend more money on ourselves and our family than others who have great need. What if we did something about it? Every single one of us? What if we gave just one gift (not the junk from the attic that hasn't been cool in 20 years), but one sincere gift to bless someone this year? How about donating a new coat to the homeless shelter? Or buying a bag of non-perishable food for the local food pantry or other shelters?

**A news story in our area (Raleigh, NC) explained that the homeless need thermal underwear, socks, gloves and hats more than anything else. They benefit most from layering.**

What if we went beyond giving stuff? What if we give our time, our heart, our hope instead? It's not too late to help! What would that look like?

My brother and his family are visiting next weekend. Together, we agreed to give our time to a local agency instead of exchanging Christmas gifts among the kids. The kids are in on it too! My sons volunteered at this agency last year. They agree that working side by side with the family will be even better!

Who can you serve this Christmas season? Who can you bless and encourage?

Let's make a difference! Shop for a purpose. Serve with a purpose. Love others, always!

Happy birthday, Jesus!

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

New Life

Hey friends,

A few days ago, a sweet baby girl was born to friends of ours. Their pregnancy had its ups and downs and ups and downs. Family and friends prayed for her -- and them -- for months. I was out of town when she was born and had to wait three whole days to meet her. She's everything we prayed for: healthy! And she's beautiful, snuggly, and sweet.

Anticipating her arrival was a big deal for those of us who know her family. We waited. We planned. We celebrated. We prayed. We loved her before ever knowing her... and I'm just a friend to this special family.

This love for someone so new and special leads me to wonder about Jesus. How did His mom feel as she waited. And planned. And prayed. For Him. Who loved Him before ever knowing Him?

Two thousand years later... Christmas is fast approaching (less than 90 days, but please don't wig out about the shopping you need to start). Do you wait on Jesus? Do you wonder at the miracles He performed? Or that He still performs in us and through us to this day? Do you love Him even though you can't see Him? Is He a friend to you? Is He more than a friend? Is He your savior?

The anticipation of new life is such a gift, but it goes beyond the child. It's a reminder to us all to remember the gift of new life we are given. Take a minute to thank Jesus for the life He's given you. Thank Him for the second chance. Remember how you felt when you first asked Him into your heart!

Praying today for sweet Hartley Grace. May God bless her life as He watched over her arrival. May her parents be filled with love, wisdom and passion to raise her Your way.
Amen

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Everlasting Father

For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6

Before Christmas, I shared about Jesus, our Wonderful Counselor and Mighty God. I never got around to finishing the rest of them.... so before the new year begins, I figured I'd catch up.

People who haven't had a great relationship with their earthly father can have a hard time grasping this concept. It can be hard even for people with really great dads. The word I get tripped up over is "everlasting." What does it mean? The obvious answer -- supported by my own dictionary I might add -- is "it lasts forever." And that's about where we lose it. Good dad or bad, in our world, nothing lasts forever.

My husband and his dad were pretty close, but his dad passed away several years ago. My husband never doubted his dad's love. And, he missed him when he was gone. Once, long after his dad died, he even picked up the phone to ask him a question... Lingering silence filled the room that day when he looked at the phone and really recognized how much he missed his dad.

An everlasting father, though, is always at the "other end of the phone." Ready to listen. Ready to help. Ready to motivate. We need not doubt he is there. Heb. 13:8 reminds us that He is always here. "Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever."

When my kids get injured or feel sick, they don't want me. They want their dad... he is a doctor, so maybe that's reasonable. (Though I think they underestimate the skill of "Dr. Mom.") My kids know that if there's something wrong, Daddy can do something about it. He can stitch up a gash on the back of the head. He can diagnose pneumonia with a quick listen to the lungs. More importantly, he knows how to make it better.

Our everlasting father is all that and more. He understands our hurts, and He knows how to make them better. He is always in control. We need not fear. "He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together." (Col. 1:17) God is in control, and I don't need to be!

At our house, particularly during the fall band and football season, we run a bit ragged. I head one direction with a kid or two, and my husband goes the opposite way with whoever is left. We squeeze in the grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, and house cleaning whenever we can snag a few extra minutes. With three kids and two parents, there is just not enough of us to go around.

But God is not stretched so thin! (Okay, I know lots and lots of parents stretched really thin, so I am going to say that again: God is not stretched so thin!) In fact, God is not stretched at all. He is a God of infinite resources: love, joy, peace, and hope. He has an abundance of each and wants us to have them, too.

Isaiah 40:28-31 provides a clear picture of God's infinite love for us.

Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The LORD is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom.

He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.

Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;

but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

As the new year approaches, I want to soar on wings like eagles - reaching higher than ever before - making an impact for God's kingdom I never dreamed possible. I want to run this race called life with the endurance of a marathoner. I want to walk through the peaks and the valleys, without fear or worry.







Monday, December 28, 2009

Some things just never change!

We had some really great moments this Christmas, the kind that make forever memories... and some helped Rob and I remember some great moments from our own childhood.

We shared Christmas with our neighbors. It was awesome to spend time with friends we just don't get to see often enough anymore. A quiet, relaxed evening for the adults. The boys, after a day of gift opening and eating, headed to the bonus room to play. They "invented" a new game: shooting nerf guns at each other in the dark, using flashlights to guide their way. They loved it.

It brought back memories of Rob's own childhood, when he and his brothers would play tag in their dark basement, throwing glow in the dark ping pong balls at each other. Very fun!

Sometime during the night, I woke up. We forgot to give our daughter one of her gifts! And I had no idea where it was. I rolled over, flipped and flopped, and finally fell asleep. First thing in the morning, I asked my husband about it. Neither of us could remember where we had stashed it. I really thought I had wrapped it and put it with the other gifts... I had visions of us digging through the wrapping paper and boxes to see if we could find it. (Thankfully, he found it in the corner of the bedroom, apparently moved out of the way a little too well.)

Two days later, and I still chuckle about it. My mom was notorious at buying things, wrapping them and forgetting what she had bought. She is also known for buying gifts and forgetting where she hid them. I guess I'm a chip off the old block!

We may live in an era of computers and technology, but some things just never change!

Friday, December 25, 2009

Merry Christmas

Our family wishes you a Christmas filled with wonder...


fun...


joy in the simple things...


peace...


and LOVE!


Merry Christmas!
Love, Rob, Karen, Nathan, Ben and Ellie

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Giving, by Nathan Dawkins


(Today's post is written by my son, Nathan.)

Yesterday I volunteered at a local charity providing food, clothing, and basic everyday items to the poor. I arrived ready to get my hands dirty and do whatever was needed. Four hours later, my mom arrived to get me. I sat down in the car with a huge sigh and a few epiphanies. I had been shown three basic things that day, and I think that many people overlook them.
First, I was shown the value of real, good leadership. I was amazed by the heart of the volunteers. They were willing to give away large chunks of time from their own lives for complete strangers. The only problem was that they didn’t have a leader. Or rather their leader wasn’t effective. They had a great cause but no one was really sure how to carry it out. (The leader was out that day and a sub was filling in. We need strong leaders everywhere!)
The next thing that I learned is exactly how blessed I am. The people who get their everyday necessities from this organization don’t have the luxuries that we sometimes take for granted. For instance fresh bread. Some of these people haven’t ever had fresh bread. It’s always stale, almost moldy, and not appetizing.
I also realized that friendship is incredibly crucial. As I cleaned, sorted, and stacked I wanted desperately for someone to talk to. When I got home, I was dying to talk to someone and socialize. That’s when I realized that it is so much easier to bless the community and serve with someone than alone.


I think everyone should take the time to give to the needy. I learned a lot this week, that I am sure will stick with me a long time. I hope the people this charity serves are blessed this Christmas.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Reevaluating Christmas Traditions

Christmas is a special time of year... traditions make memories. Yet, sometimes, they can trap us, the demands to keep up the tradition can overwhelm the tradition itself. On facebook, I've noticed lots of people baking cookies but not having the time. Traditions overwhelming the joy they are meant to bring.

Perhaps, when that happens, it's time to rethink the tradition. When traditions overshadow this time of family and love, perhaps, it's time to say good-bye. After all, which is more important? Perfectly decorated sugar cookies on a platter or laughter and hugs? Which is more valuable, the "right" gift? Or, the love it represents?

Our family baked cookies together a couple nights ago, and for the first time in a long time, we all had fun. Ellie and Ben made chocolate covered pretzels - easy to do independently - while Rob and I made bar cookies. One recipe, one pan and done! Nathan floated among it all, helping with everything, especially quality control (tasting the batter :D). It was the most relaxing baking night we have ever had! And, we have a platter of yummy delights to share.

We're doing something similar with the shopping. Whatever we haven't done by TODAY - yes, BEFORE Christmas Eve - isn't getting done. Period. There's no reason to rush out and buy stuff to shove under the tree. We already know we love each other, and honestly, will we remember all the gifts anyway?

This Christmas is different at our house. It's about time together, playing games and watching movies... maybe because Nathan leaves for college in two years, we realize what a gift this time is. It's about love and sharing... after all, God gave love at Christmas, sharing his son with the world... why shouldn't we share the love we have?

The slower pace is a treasure. And that's a tradition worth savoring!


Monday, December 21, 2009

Christmas Memories

Ellie loves to hear stories about "before I was born." She cracks up when I tell her stories from my own childhood. I really think she believes I've always been a 40-something mommy! One of the greatest joys of Christmas, though, is sharing those memories. Storytelling links the generations.

Here are a few of my favorites (and Ellie's too):

1. My favorite gift - ever!!! When I was little, probably six or seven, my mom sewed a long nightgown and matching, quilted robe for me. She worked on it late at night after I'd gone to sleep. She checked the size by laying it over me while I slept (I'm a light sleeper, so she was quite stealthy!) I wore that long gown for years, retiring it only when it got too small to put over my head. Thanks, Mom.

2. Santa visits at the Columbus Zoo. When the boys were young, we lived just 30 minutes from the best zoo on the planet - the Columbus Zoo. We visited the zoo for their Christmas light display and to see Santa - the "real one." He didn't have a fake beard! Christmas music played, we got cookies and hot cocoa and marveled at the light displays. (Unfortunately, this was in the pre-digital era or I'd post a pic!) One year, we somehow forgot Ben's winter coat. Rob sacrificed, bundling little, two-year old Ben in his fluffy down ski jacket. Hilarious!

3. Funniest gift ever! My cousin, Brian, gave my parents a puzzle one year... and he was kind enough to wrap each and every one of the 1,000 pieces individually!

4. Our first Christmas eve service at C3 Church. Much of our church family comes from somewhere other than North Carolina, so we weren't sure who would attend. So many people came that we filled every chair in the church, from the front wall to the back. People sat in the aisles, kids on parents' laps, and others stood in the lobby - listening through the doors. What I loved most, though, was the generosity. Church members gave up their seats again and again so that guests could have them. Love came down at Christmas!

5. Shopping in New York City. Sure, it's more expensive there. It was still awesome. In 2008, Nathan's high school band marched in the Macy's parade. Rob sent Ben and me with him, and we got to shop in the original - Miracle on 34th Street - Macy's. We loved the coat check room, the original wooden escalators, and the Starbucks.

Merry Christmas! May your Christmas be filled with special memories, love for one another, and a heart for Jesus. <3

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Christmas... Is for giving

Can you feel the buzz? The excitement as gifts from the grandparents arrive at our front door. The excitement as the cookies bake (I'm lame, just baking chocolate chip cookies and others that are blob shaped. No patience for sugar cookies here). The excitement as North Carolina braces for snow - teasing us with thoughts of a white Christmas (not gonna happen)...

Yet, Christmas is not about the buzz. The excitement is fun, but Christmas is for giving! My boys are on Christmas break next week. While it's tempting to fill the time with sleeping in, eating, sleeping some more, eating, playing games, watching movies, and more eating... they will also be giving their time and energy to something bigger.

They will be volunteering their time to a local charity, sorting clothes, toys, and food donations. They'll be cleaning storage rooms and stocking shelves to help others.

The greatest gift we can give this Christmas is ourselves.

If not to a local charity, how about making cookies for the neighbors? Or taking small gifts to the nursing home, visiting those whose families won't be there?

Or... what about "forgiving"? The true gift of Christmas is Jesus. He came so that we might live in forgiveness and peace. Why not forgive someone and let go of the hurts that weigh us down? Imagine, a family healed when we say, "It's okay." Or a friendship restored when we, ourselves, ask forgiveness for holding the grudge?

Christmas is "for giving!"


Thursday, December 17, 2009

Finding Strength in God

"God is God, and I am not. And that's okay with Him!" Our youth pastor preached that last weekend and I blogged about it yesterday. The sermon left me with one big question. How do I "use" God's strength to make a difference?

I pray all the time, "God use me." "Shine through me." How?

The prophet Nathan sets a great example of how to let God work through our lives. Nathan was a contemporary of King David (The David who slayed Goliath, became King, slept with another man's wife and got her pregnant, and then had her husband killed...) David's life was disintegrating, and so, God sent Nathan to confront him (read the full story here). Imagine telling the King - not any King, but powerful and beloved King David - that he messed up and couldn't hide it from God. That takes guts!

Nathan was able to act on God's request, because he was prepared.

First, he had a close relationship with God. Because he was close to God, he had the confidence to act when God called on him to confront King David. He wasn't confronting King David alone. He was walking with God, confronting at God's direction, not alone.

Second, he had a relationship with King David. Because he and David were close friends, David respected what Nathan had to say. In 1 John 3:18, we are instructed not to love in word or tongue, but in deed and in truth. Nathan had loved David through faithful friendship - his actions and his integrity paved the way for him to speak. When we develop the same type of friendships, God can work through us in the same way.

Third, Nathan knew his calling. He understood his purpose was to serve King David by speaking God's truth into his life. He didn't worry about what others said or did, but focused on what God had prepared him to do. How often do we know the right thing to do, but give into peer pressure or convenience? We'll never make the biggest impact if we are unwilling to walk God's way consistently. (Thankfully, there is grace when we mess up - but that's a blog for some other day).

Fourth, Nathan was humble. He had already set aside his personal agenda to follow God. Sounds like a horrible way to live - you mean, I can't do what I want? It's my life, after all. BUT, in giving his life to God, Nathan was the advisor to a very powerful king! I think I'd take that life if it was offered!

Nathan's life provides the blueprint for me -- and you. Spending regular time talking to God and reading his word is the first step. Without that relationship, how could we possibly know what God wants to say? Developing strong friendships, based in truth, time, commitment and love creates a platform for influence. How much time do I spend nurturing my friendships? Am I sincere in love? Third, I need to trust that God's plan for my life is better than anything I could come up with. I know that is true, but how committed am I (good heart check question!)? And finally, I must be humble. My life is not mine for me. It's a gift from God, intended to make a difference. Perhaps that prayer, "God use me," is a good place to start. If I listen and follow through!

Dear God, as the year 2010 rolls in, help me walk closer with you. Show me my friends' hearts and help me become a better friend. Take my life and use it to make a kingdom difference! Amen.