Special blog posts about special kids

This week, I am honored to be sharing two posts over at Encouragement Cafe with Luann and Friends. Please stop by. I hope it's a blessing to you!

Jesus Loves the Little Children

and

Shattered Dreams and New Hope.

God bless!

Think this not that

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right,

whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable

--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--

think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

Such a cool verse! Do we dwell on the bad things: less than stellar service at a store or restaurant, our kids' wrong choices, or the teams we picked in the NCAA tournament losing (that last one is for my sports-minded son whose bracket is done!)? OR, do we focus on the good things: those things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, or admirable?

Certainly, surfer Bethany Hamilton chooses to focus on the good, not the bad. I can only assume that her parents think the same way. After all, their fifteen year old daughter is still out on the water, despite losing her arm in a shark attack. Bethany stands out because she didn't let a major setback keep her from pursuing her passion -- surfing. She inspires children and adults around the world with her determination to live life fully and not let a "little thing" like a shark bite stop her.

We consider other people, like the heroes of 9/11, Tim Tebow, and those who volunteer their time in Haiti and other devastated regions, as special. Really, though, are they special? Or do they just choose to do what God asks all of us to do?

Instead of focusing on the negative, they focus on whatever is right, true and praiseworthy. The heroes of 9/11, firemen, police and "regular joes," chose to do the right thing. They laid their lives on the line for the benefit of others. Tim Tebow chooses to put faith first, not fame. Yes, the fame has come, but it doesn't define his character. Missionaries, likewise, give time, money and energy to serve "the least of these." They don't weigh the economic value of a region or the "worth" of a life. They understand that everyone is precious to God and give. Selflessly.

But there are those who look the other way, focusing on the negative. (I am -- or often have been -- one of those.) Poor me... look at how tough life is. Look at my suffering. Hear my pain.

Why do we choose not to focus on what is right and good?

It's not a condition of circumstances. Bethany, Tebow and the NYFD aren't "special." Fame does NOT make a person special! A family friend, age eight, battles cancer -- with a smile on her face and a spring in her step. Weary, yes. In pain, yes. Afraid, yes. But still smiling, confidently placing her life in God's hands. Another family faces the all-too-common economic reality of losing their home, but they continue to live and serve and love. Life hasn't stopped. And more friends are facing joblessness as yet another business folds under the pressure of our economic struggles. They move on. They live. They serve. They love. They give. Normal, everyday people.

My friends in crisis know one thing to be true. God is God. All the time! They trust in Him to lead them, comfort them, provide for them, and carry them through the storms of this life. They understand what Paul wrote to the Philippians: focus on the truth of God's love for you and all that He does on your behalf. Trust in God's provision for you and know that He will never leave you or forsake you. They know. God is love. And love never fails.

My friends do not know how everything will work out, but they do not doubt that God will see them through.

If you feel like life is beating you down, please reach out to someone who can help you understand how much God loves you. If you're not sure where to turn, come to church. If you're not ready to step through the doors of a church, consider reaching out to Focus on the Family's crisis line at (800) A FAMILY (800-232-6459). In my deepest pit, I didn't know how to break free -- Focus on the Family helped me take that first step.

God knows we face problems. He wants you to know you don't face them alone. He wants to carry your burdens and help you see the world differently.

When I sat down to write this post, I was headed in one direction. The post went entirely a different way. If you need to hear these words today, I am praying for you. GOD is waiting to meet you right where you are. He wants to show you how to climb out of your pit and live in peace and hope. I pray you will reach out to Him today. God bless!

Emotions!!!

Caught! Sent to his room to think about things. Stomp. Stomp. Stomp. SLAM!

Sometimes they get along!

He obeys. Technically.

But his emotions disagree. Loudly!

She is no different. Sent to the corner, she stomps her foot. Balls her hands into rigid fists by her side. She bangs her forehead on the wall. "I'm here," she seems to say, "but my heart won't give in."

Raising kids is hard work. Teaching them to obey, honor, and respect is a 24/7 obligation. Slack, even for a moment, and the opportunistic, selfish child seizes the moment.

Why do I bother? They'll just do it again when I'm not looking. Why not quit?

It's tempting.

Some days.

Then I remember, those emotions are no different than mine. God says, "do this" and I fight him. Fists balled, teeth clenched I stubbornly stand my ground. Or, I give in -- sort of -- doing what God asks, but with the same bad attitude. Caught between my own desires and God's plan, I cry. I whine. I pout. I... I... I...

"For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere." (James 3:16-17)

Why do I keep going?

For my kids to understand how to submit to God, they must learn how to submit to earthly parents. For my kids to appreciate that God wants the best for them, they must learn that I want the best for them. I am their first model of Him.

Why fight?

Because I want to give my kids every opportunity to learn how to respect and honor authority -- mine, but moreso, God's. When they learn to obey me and trust that I want the best for them, they will understand that God wants that same thing. Humble, respectful obedience of parents sets the foundation for a lifetime of humble, respectful obedience of God.

As for me? I'm still working on that humble obedience myself. I pray my kids are quicker learners than I am!

Do you still fight with God?

When God Says No

When my kids were little and played in the driveway, I'd yell "no" or "stop" to keep them from running into the road. Sometimes, they'd turn around and keep playing. Other times, they'd pitch a fit, mad that I had interrupted. Shouldn't they understand that I was protecting them from the hidden dangers of passing cars? I never second-guessed my decisions or felt bad if they got mad at me. After all, I was just doing my job, protecting my kids.

Yet when God says no to me, my heart hurts. Perhaps I'm a little like a frustrated three year old, fists clenched, foot stomping. Why?

This weekend, our family got two answers to prayer. One was a yes -- YEA!!! The other, you guessed it. NO! I'm not talking a "not right now, sweetie." I'm talking a big fat NO -- rejection! And my heart hurt. I grieved God's answer.

And I wondered, does God grieve when He says no?

I don't think so. You see, God has a plan. In Jeremiah 29:11, God explains it:

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

In John 10:10, Jesus explains why He even came to earth to die for us, saying:

"...I have come that they might have life and have it to the full."

Verses like these remind me that God's plan is filled with his love and hope. I can have peace, even when God says no, because He wants my life to be filled with purpose and fullness. His plan is the best one for my life. While I may not understand His "no," He does.

In the relationship between us and God, we're like my kids playing in the driveway. God is like us, providing safety and protection from danger we don't see or can't understand.

God's no this weekend means something else will be our "yes." His plan will offer hope and a future beyond what we can imagine.

Does God grieve when He says no?

I don't think so. I'm glad about that. I wouldn't want God to be some big wimp who can't decide what's best for me. I believe in a BIG God who never changes and always wants to give me the very best.

Don't you?

I believe in miracles!

Did you read my post on freedom last week? I shared how I sometimes ignore the Holy Spirit's prompting -- on purpose! Really. I've been thinking about that ever since.

Why would I ever ignore God's prompting through the Holy Spirit? Why? Why? Why?

Scripture says:

• "I have come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." (John 10:10)
• "The LORD is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works." (Psalm 145:9)
• "But as it is written, no eye has seen nor ear has heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God has prepared for those that love him." (1 Corinthians 2:9)
• "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever." (Ephesians 3:20-21)

Now, now.... Go back and read the scriptures. Don't skim over them. See, I might say something amazing, but I'm nowhere near as amazing as God. 

So here I am, little old Karen who knows that God's plan is beyond anything I could ever do on my own. He wants me to live an abundant life, which he prepared just for me. He can do more than I can ask or imagine! And I DREAM BIG!!! And what do I do? I take matters into my own hands. I ignore the Holy Spirit. I. AM. CRAZY!

Can you relate?

I'm so guilty of being the holy spirit to my kids. That's not my job, though. God wants me to guide them, instruct them and correct them. He wants me to encourage and nurture and pray for them. He wants to be the one to convict their hearts. Those rare times when I do my job and stay out of His, He does pretty amazing. Okay, more than pretty amazing -- He is jaw-dropping FANTASTIC at being God!

Maybe your marriage isn't all that you want it to be. Are you trying to fix it? Or will you let God work on you and leave your spouse to His care? Instead of pointing out your spouse's every short-coming, ask God to show you where you need to improve. Do it, God's way.

Do you hate your boss? Your coworkers? Maybe hate is a strong word.... Maybe you just find them clueless? Ignorant? Selfish? You know what, God didn't put you there to judge them. (Yes, I'm stomping on toes -- mine included!) He put you there to shine HIS light -- not your judgment -- into their lives. How? By following him. You don't have to do it! You just need to honor God and do things His way, walking by faith not by sight.

And when we do that, the most amazing thing happens. God moves. He intercedes. Problems we dread "suddenly" evaporate. Situations we fear resolve. Relationships we struggle with improve. God moves in every situation -- "[He] works for the good of those who love him." (Romans 8:28)

We get it backward. Bless me, then I'll follow you. He wants us to follow him, and then the blessings will flow.

What challenge do you face today? Will you commit your situation to God's care? AND ask Him to work on your heart while you're at it? Do you believe in miracles? I do! 

Ridiculous Resolutions

My son's morning tweet says "Time to consider my New Year's resolution. My current top three are to start smoking, gain 240 lbs, or befriend a lion." He got me thinking of other ridiculous resolutions.


I have never heard anyone say, this year I will...

• spend less quality time with my family.
• forget about budget and planning. It's the year to spend, spend, spend.
• focus less on others and focus instead on ME! After all, I AM amazing!!!
• start hoarding!

I don't make any resolutions at all. Not really. Instead, I look at the new year as an opportunity. A clean slate to make better, wiser choices than I did in the year before. I do ask God for help, with a simple end-of-year prayer: 


Dear God, Please show me the parts of me that need to change. How can I live healthier, wiser and more lovingly? Amen

Then I listen.

Last year, God reminded me that I have never read the entire Bible. I started that journey -- and I've only made it through the book of Exodus. It's not that I don't read the Bible daily. I do. (Almost) As I read, though, I find myself cross-referencing verses and dwelling on passsages for days. That's the way God wired me, so I'll keep plugging along. Maybe I'll finish the next three books in 2012!

How about you? Do you have a resolution, ridiculous or not? Share yours in the comments below.

Happy new year, everyone!

Love,

Peace at Christmas

I'm having a tough time with Christmas posts this year. I had a plan -- I loved my plan. But life interrupted. Not the fun life of bows, wrapping, songs, baking, movies, playing. Our Christmas was interrupted by real life. Painful lessons we all must learn but no one really wants to go through. What happened isn't really important to this post. (If you're curious, sorry... That is a story for another day.) What we learned from it is priceless.

1. Christmas is NOT about gifts! We spend so much time shopping, paying, wrapping, stressing... over gifts. I'm learning this year how very misguided that really is. What if you had no family to buy gifts for? What if you were all alone this Christmas?

2. Treasure the gift of family! We take each other for granted. We focus on "my" instead of "our" or "you." Am I really going to have to listen to Uncle George's pontifications again? Or deal with Grandma's snide comments all day long? Whatever... is it really so bad to put up with that for one day? Instead of focusing on the one person who drives you crazy, why not take time to look at the blessing of family. What joy have these people brought into your life? How have they put up with you, despite your flaws and imperfections? Be thankful your family loves you in spite of you!

3. Remember the Prince of Peace! Christmas is the celebration of our Savior's birth, but Jesus didn't come down here as a baby and stay that way. He came and grew into a man, to preach and teach -- in word and action -- of God's love, forgiveness, hope and peace. Christmas is simply where the gift begins. Will you receive his gift -- relationship with him that covers all your sin and leads to eternal life?

This Christmas more than any other, Jesus' peace is the gift I most cherish. My heart has been so heavy, but His peace is filling me and comforting me.

Whatever burdens or hurts you carry this Christmas, I pray you will know that Jesus was born for you. He wants to fill your heart with the same peace He's giving me.

For unto us a child is born, to us a son is given,

and the government will be on his shoulders.

And he will be called

Wonderful Counselor,

Mighty God,

Everlasting Father,

Prince of Peace.

Isaiah 9:6

Ho-ho-holiday stress!

Paul told the Philippians, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God."

Of course, that was 2,000 years ago, before Christmas really got going. Paul didn't have to juggle his regular responsibilities, plus Christmas shopping, baking, kids' school programs, office parties, church gatherings, tree lightings and parades. He didn't have to figure out how to blend your Christmas and my Christmas to make our Christmas -- hopefully without offending the grannies!

Paul didn't know.

But God did! Ecclesiastes 1:9 says, "What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun."

We think we have stress. What about Mary? Stress one: telling her family she was having God's baby. Yeahhhhh..... sure. Stress two: breaking the news to Joseph. Stress three: very pregnant with cankles, she rode a stinking donkey across the country! I complain when I journey in my environmentally controlled car with adjustable seats, stereo, pillow and cup holder.

When they finally got to Bethlehem, Mary's situation did not improve. No place to stay.... Oooooh, if my husband planned a trip and forgot sleeping arrangements he would be toast! Talk about stress. How about having a baby in a stable, surrounded by stinky pigs, horses and donkeys? We freak out if our baby's pacifier hits the kitchen floor. Can you imagine giving birth in that filthy place?

As usual, God's right. There is nothing new under the sun. We head into the holidays excited, yet dreading. I think Mary might just understand. When the angel first came to her, she was "greatly troubled at his word and wondered what kind of greeting this might be." Can you hear her, hands on hips, saying, "Dude, what are you talking about? That makes no sense!"

The angel replied, "Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus." Mary's response? Pure peace and grace, she answered, "I am the Lord’s servant... May your word to me be fulfilled.” (Quotes from Luke 1:26-38, NIV) 

No stress I face compares to what Mary endured to give birth to the love of Christmas. No stress you face is greater than hers either.

Rather than freak out as we tend to do, let's adopt an attitude more like Mary's.

• When the tension and anxiety start to build, stop! Breathe deeply and slowly.
• As you breathe deeply, pray, "I am your servant, Lord. Let your love fill me and flow through me. Fill me with your peace."
• Keep praying and breathing until God's peace fills you!

To endure the trip, Mary must have been healthy. Let's make healthy living a priority as well.

• Drink coffee, soda, tea (caffeine) only in the morning, and only one or two cups. Caffeine throughout the day builds and creates an artificial anxiety which leads to more anxiety -- a vicious cycle!
• As the day winds down, drink a cup of chamomile or "sleepytime" tea to settle your stomach, your nerves and your mind. Winding down at day's close improves sleep. Better sleep leads to greater ability to make decisions to manage the stress.

My guess is that Mary didn't fill her time on that donkey talking about crime rates and other horrors of the world, instead filling the time talking with Joseph and others in the family. Why do we look at the negative?

• Turn off the news. (If you, like me are a weather junkie, flip on the news at the quarter hour. You'll still get the report without the sensational headlines!)
• While you're at it, shut off the crime-filled drama shows and reality TV. These shows are specifically designed to build tension so you stay glued to the channel. The real world is not filled with crime after crime after crime, buildings and warehouses blowing up in cities across the world, or mass murderers in every neighborhood. (Yes, these things do happen, but not like the shows suggest). 
• Instead, spend time with the family. Decorate cookies, play board games, watch a FUN Christmas movie together, make cards for Grandma. Focus on the blessings God has given you!

Ho-ho-holiday stress does exist. God knows. He really does! Just as He got Mary through the stress of that first Christmas, He WILL see you through it too.

May the love of Jesus fill your heart, your mind and your home this special season.

Love,

Thursdays are satan's playground

My sweet friends,
Thursdays are NOT my favorite day of the week. If I were to rank the days, Thursday would probably get last place. Monday would follow close behind. It's not that I have anything against Thursday. No hangups about Nordic gods (We get Thursday from the Nordic god Thor, god of thunder. Did you think it was Greek or Latin?).

Thursday evenings we have connect group. At our church, in-home Bible study or small groups, are called connect groups. They provide an opportunity to connect with other church members -- and of course, with God -- on a deeper level as we fellowship and study together. I love connect group! I adore the people in our group...

But satan... that old devil...

He doesn't! He hates connect group night. He hates the idea of us growing stronger in our faith. He despises the relationships developing as we meet, relationships God clearly values in Proverbs 27:17, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." We pray. We encourage. We laugh. And sometimes, we cry. Satan hates it!

Every Thursday, he tries to knock us down. Seriously! Last week, I was super-grumpy... If they gave out super-hero capes for grumps, I would have gotten one. A couple weeks ago, I was sick. Before that, my husband was home sick. No joke! Today, you wonder? What could possibly go wrong today? The sun is shining (of course, you're not looking out the windows with me this fine, sunny day... trust me. It's gorgeous out there!!!)

One of my children, who shall remain nameless, woke up grumpy. Oh how I want to snap back, "Don't yell at me." Yep! "Go to your room." "Scrub the walls, ceiling to floor!" (Not for any other reason to create misery in this child's life).

But I won't.

I know satan "comes only to steal, kill and destroy." (John 10:10) I'm wise to his ways. He wants to mess with my family and throw us into chaos. Anything to keep us from growing wiser and stronger! He wants me unfocused tonight.

He doesn't think I'll remember the second half of John 10:10, that glorious BUT. (Perhaps my favorite BUT in the entire Bible!) BUT Jesus has come "that we may have life and have it to the full!"

Satan can try to bully my Thursdays, but he's not going to win. Jesus has my back! He'll stand up to the enemy anytime, anywhere.

You know what? If the enemy is bullying you today, Jesus has your back too. In Jesus' name, tell that old bully to hit the road. And then, go enjoy a pumpkin spice latte with your best friend, Jesus!

Blessings,

"Where is your faith?"

Thinking. Thinking. Thinking.

Nathan enjoyed his visit to App State. He loves the program and the campus. He likes having friends already there and all the activities available to students.

He enjoyed his visit to Samford University too. Great program, though they don't offer his specifically desired major which means he'll have to do the major-minor thing. Not too bad. Incredible professors. Beautiful campus and friendly students.

Of course, Belmont offers not only his preferred major, but the premiere location -- Nashville. The heart of music recording and production.

Right now, he's feeling the stress of the decision. If only he could put Samford's campus and piano professors in Nashville with his friends, the activities, and the food from App State. He can't lose wherever he goes, but the decision will not be easy. (HINT to anyone from the school admissions office who might be reading this... scholarship offers will weigh in heavily!)

Coffee in hand -- Feelin' Collegiate!

I've been his sounding board as he processes the decision, listening as he weighs and reweighs the pros and cons of each school. It's time to bring in the expert. Jesus. In Luke 8:25, Jesus asks the disciples, "Where is your faith?" as the wind and water rage around their boat. Jesus calmed the stormy sea for them. He will do the same for Nathan.

My advice to my son, and all the students making weighty post-graduation decisions, is this: Trust Jesus. He will calm the storms raging in your head as you make your decision. He will lead you, just as He promises in Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In ALL YOUR WAYS, acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight."

Pray.
Wait.
Listen.
Go.

As Romans 8:31 puts it, "If God is for us, who can be against us?" God is bigger than this decision. He wants the very best for you. He will lead you to it!

Prayerfully,

"But you..."

Last weekend, our Pastor's wife shared the sermon, speaking on pride from 1 Corinthians 13. As is our custom, we shared what we heard (and hopefully learned) over lunch. Hands down, this sermon generated more incredible discussion than any other... ever! (Feel free to listen here (10/9) or watch here (10/9). But come back to discover what we learned!)

Her sermon included a "Pride Test." Let's just say, it left no toes unstomped! We're thankful to have our eyes opened to our prideful tendencies, though. Proverbs 24:3-4 says, "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures." I can think of no greater treasure than the family God has given me.

Our family was challenged by each of these points. We're speaking and serving one another in love and humility. We've been transformed!

Would you like more love and peace in your family? Maybe you will find yourself in this list. If you do, take steps to change... all it takes is one open discussion at the dinner table and a bit of humility!

The Pride Test:
Do you?
1. Complain against or pass judgment on God (blaming him for everything bad in your life) OR acknowledge that God is God (and trust him, good or bad)?

2. Demonstrate a general lack of gratitude (I deserve all the good things I get) OR thank God and people often?

3. Exhibit anger (outbursts, withdrawal, pouting, or moody) OR seek to live in peace with all people?

4. See yourself as better than others, easily irritated and impatient OR recognize that you are no better than anyone else (BUT FOR the grace of God you could be....)?

5. Think you're more important, more gifted and/or more talented than others (a legend in your own mind) OR genuinely glad for others' successes and blessings?

6. Suffer from perfectionism (concerned with appearances and how others perceive you) OR teachable, recognizing that perfection is not possible?

7. Talk too much (the center of every conversation -- it's all about "ME") OR encouraging, seeking ways to build others up?

8. Fight for independence and control (struggling when you must submit to authority) OR gladly submissive and obedient to those in authority?

9. Shift the blame or act defensively (not willing to ask forgiveness, justifying your behavior -- I'm sorry for ____, BUT YOU....) OR quickly admit when you're wrong and seek forgiveness without justification?

10. Offer your opinions and preferences, even when you aren't asked OR speak the truth in love?

Yep, lots of toe stomping!!!

Our family though has not heard:

• "But you..." once this whole week!!! "But you" was a permanent resident of this home until Sunday.... "But you" has been joyfully evicted! We're thrilled.
• "How can I..." has moved in. "How can I" is a much friendlier resident. "How can I" brings a smile to our faces and a joy to our hearts.

Wisdom, understanding and knowledge are filling our home with beautiful treasures! 

May your home be filled with the same!

God bless!

Lightning Strikes!

Hello friends,

Isn't that cool? Our mirror flower!

Crazy 24 hours at the Dawkins house. The remnants of Hurricane Lee finally passed through North Carolina yesterday, no biggie. We had a 45 minute thunderstorm warning and cloudy skies. But just like in life, it's the little thing that tripped us up.

I had just flipped on the Weather Channel to see how much longer we'd have rain (my son still doesn't like to drive in really bad weather -- who really does?). Radar showed that the storm was about to end and then: Ka-BOOM!!!! The house shook and everything got "tingly." The rain was already past! Crazy!

Yep -- the last couple minutes of the storm got us! Thankfully, the damage was minor: a hole in the roof (now tarped), electrical wiring and cable blown to smithereens (but no fire), electrical "stuff" zapped (none of the stuff I want to replace, but none of the big ticket items either -- a nuisance, but not a catastrophe) and our bathroom mirror "baked." (That's actually pretty cool -- apparently the electrical current magnetized the backing and made big brown flowers on the mirror).

It could have been worse. Much, much worse.

As I waited on contractors and insurance adjusters and the pleasant, on-time cable guy today, I had lots of quiet time to think!

It's the little things -- one thought of "I wish my husband was more like...", one look at a pornographic website, one pair of shoes you "just gotta have," or one text while driving -- one small choice that can lead to disaster. One step onto the slippery slope of temptation leads to sin. It doesn't take much to blow the life God's given us into a major disaster.

Thankfully, God's better than any insurance policy (or a really nice, on-time cable guy). God's still there if we mess up. He wants to redeem our lives, set us back on the path He had planned all along. Of course, it looks a little different -- we can't undo the past. My mirror looks a little different too. But, it doesn't mean we can't live in the freedom of God's love.

If you carry guilt about something you have done, please ask God's forgiveness for it -- no matter how great or small. He wants to redeem your life! Check out what His Word says in Ephesians 1:3-10 (MSG):

How blessed is God! And what a blessing he is! He's the Father of our Master, Jesus Christ, and takes us to the high places of blessing in him. Long before he laid down earth's foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his beloved Son.

 Because of the sacrifice of the Messiah, his blood poured out on the altar of the Cross, we're a free people—free of penalties and punishments chalked up by all our misdeeds. And not just barely free, either. Abundantly free! He thought of everything, provided for everything we could possibly need, letting us in on the plans he took such delight in making. He set it all out before us in Christ, a long-range plan in which everything would be brought together and summed up in him, everything in deepest heaven, everything on planet earth.

Just a moment to confess our misdeeds. A moment to accept his love, given freely. A moment to receive that forgiveness. Just a moment -- and He wipes the slate clean. WOW!

In Christian love,

American "Idol" (Part Four)

photo © 2008 Pen Waggener | more info (via: Wylio)
Genesis 22:4-5 says, "On the third day Abraham looked up and saw the place in the distance. He said to his servants, “Stay here with the donkey while I and the boy go over there. We will worship and then we will come back to you.”


For those of us who battle to trust God, whether with our children, work, finances, or relationships, this passage demonstrates how strong our faith in God can be when we choose to trust him. 


Abraham kept going -- right on up that mountain -- Isaac in tow. No worry. No fear. He says, "We will worship and then we will come back to you." Abraham's confidence in God's provision was absolute! He didn't send the servants off to search for a ram -- to help God out. He didn't bring a servant along to take Isaac's place, just in case.


How different Abraham's actions were compared to those of us who doubt.

On date night, we hire a sitter, but then check in 20 times just to make sure the kids are okay. We skip out on the tithe to have money for emergencies. We install security alarms on the doors -- and deadbolts -- and flood lights. And still, we're scared of the dark.

Abraham trusted. Absolutely. Completely. We can too.

It comes back to the choice I talked about in the last post: Walk alone in fear or walk confidently in Christ.

If you struggle to trust God with some part of your life, what's holding you back? What can you do that God can't do? I'm not being smart. I'm asking seriously. If you're afraid of something -- is it too big for God?

Consider the same question Abraham did, "Is anything too hard for the Lord?" (Genesis 18:14). Ready for the "funny coincidence?" Abraham and Sarah were asked this question BY GOD when they got the news that they would one day have their son, Isaac. See? God tested Abraham's trust for the birth of his son. Abraham grew closer to God through that experience. When it finally came time to trust God with the "sacrifice" of Isaac, Abraham had already learned that God is trustworthy.

If you struggle to trust, look back. When has God shown himself trustworthy to you before. Go ahead, make a list. Thank Him for every provision he has ever given: a friend when you were crying, unexpected funds when your checkbook was empty, a kind word when you were hurting... What is it? What has he done for you already?

When you finish your list, thank God for all he has done. Then ask him to help you trust him more. With everything.

To continue reading this series, go to American Idol (Part Five).

Surviving Rush Hour

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Last week, I had the "privilege" of driving in morning and afternoon rush hour to cart Nathan to and from piano camp. I was supposed to take Ben to golf camp in the city -- same week to save myself some driving -- but he got sick. Instead, I'm driving him this week. (Thankful that the NCSU Golf School was willing to change his camp without added cost. Not thankful that I'm driving in rush hour traffic again.) Yep, another week of back and forth driving to the city. During rush hour.

God can teach a lot to a captive audience in such a situation. He spoke clearly last week, "Stay in your lane, Karen. Just stay in your lane."

Have you noticed how some people zig this way and zag that way, trying to get ahead? I'm talking about drivers here -- they switch lanes non-stop. The "lucky" ones move ahead three or four cars, but that's about it. They just think they're going somewhere. I must admit that I enjoy watching these guys get busted for speeding! I'm not very nice.

Sane drivers stay in their lane. Sometimes they move a little faster. Sometimes they slow down. They move steadily to their destination. With a lot less stress! I learned this lesson quickly -- and spared myself a lot of stress and tension.

That's when God spoke in that sweet whisper, "Stay in your lane. It's true for life, my sweet child." You see, I want to rush ahead. For years, I've patiently (okay, not so patiently) supported my husband, raised my kids and served God in my church. I want to start my life now. Yep, now would be good.

Others pass me by -- in the fast lane. Why not me?

Why not me? Wrong question!

Instead, I should be asking, "What else, God?" What else can I learn? What else do you want me to understand? What else should I do, God, while I wait? 

God's got a good and pleasing plan for my life. I know it's true! His word says, "I know the plans I have for you... plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11). Just like a driver who stays sane in rush hour, I need to stay in my lane and focus on the goal -- God's plan. His vision. His destination. 

It's true in rush hour. It's true in life.

Praying for a Military Hero

Dear friends,
Please join me today in praying for the family of Mark Bradley, a fallen soldier whose funeral is today.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_4TRFGppjU&feature=share

Father God,

Please be with Samantha, Mark's wife, and all of Mark's family and friends as they say "good-bye." Please fill them with your peace. May Your Comfort fill the empty places in their hearts. God, help them to know that their sacrifice -- Mark's and theirs -- is appreciated. We will not forget their sacrifice for our freedom.

In your Son's name,

Amen

Mexico Update -- Please Pray!!!

My dad recently returned from his first international missions trip to Mexico. I'm so proud of him! Praise God for allowing him the opportunity to serve and minister to some of the world's most troubled people.


My dad made it home, safe and sound. He got home a little more than a week ago, flying in on Saturday, the day of the North Carolina tornadoes. When I finally got to talk to him, he excitedly shared the fun details of his flights around the storms. So different from the quiet man I remember growing up. I'm just glad he made it home, safe and in good spirits!

They ministered in two areas. In Los Nogales the church is alive and thriving. He shared the passion the people have and how families attend church services and activities together. He described it as vibrant. Listening to him, I couldn't help get excited for God's work being done in that city.

In stark contrast, he shared that the people of Juarez, Mexico -- just across the border from El Paso, Texas -- are suffering. I researched Juarez online. It's called the murder capital of the world. OF THE WORLD! It's not that far away. Mexico. More dangerous than Iraq. Or Libya. Really?

Many of the men are involved in the drug trade. Moms are raising a generation of children without fathers. He shared that one lady is boldly leading Bible studies in her home while her husband is in prison for his involvement in drug trafficking. Other women are developing Christian programs for the children, hoping to give kids hope and a choice for a better future. These ladies want to offer their children, especially their sons, a choice to live for something worthwhile. They're standing up against the drug trade. I struggle to comprehend all this is going on "next door."

Will you join me today in prayer for this troubled region? Will you keep these brave women who are trusting God to change their families' futures in your prayers. With God, all things are possible.

Thank you.

Change of Spirit

The only way to defeat a spirit is with the opposite spirit. Love defeats hate. Praise defeats negativity. Generosity defeats greed. Try it. Pastor Jimmy Evans

I might add the only way to defeat hurt is to forgive.

I know. I'm struggling to forgive right now. I don't want to forgive. I want revenge. I want to hurt the ones who hurt me. I want to lash out. Prove my point. Take a stand for justice. I want to force them to look at their actions from my point of view and admit their mistakes.

I also know that revenge, lashing out, and taking a stand rarely lead to my desired result. Such action usually leads to more hurt. Bigger problems. Deeper wounds.

Luke 6:31 says, "Do to others as you would have them do to you." What if it was me? What if I had been the one to do the hurting? Would I want my face shoved in it? No. Would I want to be humiliated? No. Would I want a tongue lashing or a lecture? No.

Would any of that change me? Sadly, no. I'd become more defensive. I'd reject me. I'd judge me a lunatic and disregard anything that ever came from my mouth again. I'd lose my integrity with me. I'd never want to talk to me again.

Jesus tells us when we are hurt to forgive, seven times seventy, forgive. (Matt. 18:22). I know Jesus' way is right. I know I've forgiven deep hurts in the past. I know that such forgiveness leads to deep peace, wholeness, oneness with God. Yet... today... I'm not quite there.

Dear God,
I look in the mirror, and I see my pain. My hurt. My unforgiveness. I know You want me to forgive. I know You are in control of even this. Please help me get there. Thank You for putting Pastor Jimmy's words before me this morning. Thank you for Matthew 18:22. Thank You for sending Jesus to die for my sins, even the sin of unforgiveness. You have wrapped me in Your truth. Help me take that step to say, "I forgive." Help me let it go and move on. Help me focus on you and not on me. Help me remember how much greater your sacrifice was than my problem is. I know that with you by my side, I will forgive. Please help me do it today and not hold a grudge.
In Jesus' precious name I pray,
Amen

Two extremes: Children's Cup and Chilean miners

Today, the Christian community mourns the passing of a special man. Dave Ohlerking, the founder of Children's Cup -- a ministry for orphans in Swaziland, Africa -- leaves a legacy of love, service, and faith in Jesus. I only met him twice, each time his genuine love for the children of Africa shined through. He knew his purpose and he walked each day in God's plan for his life.

Today, the world celebrates the rescue of 33 Chilean miners trapped 2,300 feet below ground for 69 days. Can you imagine 69 days in total darkness? 69 days in a dirt tunnel far below the ground? Can you imagine 69 days without "all the comforts of home"? I can't! Yet, these men survived. Their rescue is front-page news. Their response to their situation worth noting. One of the miners said that those of them with faith prayed the group through and those of them without faith now have it. In the worst situation, faith in God helped them through.

Today, two extremes. Neither is a surprise to God.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

To everything there is a season, and
a time to every purpose under heaven:

A time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

A time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;

A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

A time to get, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

A time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

A time to love, and a time to hate;
a time of war; and a time of peace.

Dear God,

Thank you for the life of Dave Ohlerking. Thank you for calling him to start Children's Cup and for guiding him each day. Thank you for all the children who have regular meals, learn their schoolwork, and most importantly, learn of your love because of this man's faith in You. God, I lift his family, his friends and the Children's Cup ministry to you. Comfort them with your love and peace. Continue to lead them as they share the gospel -- as they are the gospel for lost and hurting orphans. 

Thank you, Father, for protecting the Chilean miners these past 69 days. Thank you for their testimony of faith in You. As they return to their families and lives, Lord, continue to give them strength. Be with them through the adjustments, Lord. You saved them and we praise You for it.

We don't understand why some must leave us and others get to stay a little longer, but it's all part of Your plan. We know you will comfort the grieving and give strength to the weak. Through it all, God, I praise you for being the God of the universe. 

In Jesus' name,

Amen

Journaling

Hey bloggy friends,
I'm having one of those days. You know the kind... take two steps forward and then retreat as fast as you can because every little thing that can get dumped on you will... make that IS! All at once.

When I woke up the sun was shining through the window like it usually does. I said my good morning to God. The coffee poured forth -- really, my one big vice. I ate yogurt. I did a load of laundry. And then...

BOOM!!!

With no warning, and seemingly without reason, one kid's whining and pouting. Another is glaring at me as if I am the cause of all things evil -- especially schoolwork. Everyone's grumpy. I'm quick to jump on the bandwagon. Ohhh...

We've had these days. They rarely turn out well.

Then I got an email reminder from a friend. She threw my own words back at me. If you want to throw them at me, too, they're here. She's right, of course! I read back over that post -- and a whole bunch of posts from the month of March. Then, I dug out my journal (you think I'm wide open on my blog? You should get a glimpse of what I throw at God every day!!! Or, maybe you shouldn't...).

Yep, right there. The whole month. I struggled with peace in every circumstance. Contentment. Patience. It's the same struggle I'm having today.

Here's where the journaling changes things, though. I can read through the month of March and see where I went. I can see how God led me through the battles in my heart and in my mind. I can remember how God held me up when I wanted to cave in. I can see that it all turned out okay...

And then I know.

This day will turn out okay, too. This day will teach us all something. More on patience, peace and contentment. Or at the very least, a little more on forgiveness.

Even in my dark moments (please, God, don't let them be hours), there's something to learn. In that, I find joy -- the joy of Romans 15:13.